Incident 1. Location : College
Male Colleague : I have to go home but I haven’t brought my vehicle today. Can you take me with you as your home is on that route?
Me: Sure. Come.
Male Colleague : I will drive. You sit behind.
Me : *gets off the vehicle*
Incident 2. Location : University
Old aged Head of Department walking towards main road which is 1 km away.
Me on vehicle :- Sir, can I drop you to the main road?
HoD : Ok. *Looks at me while I,on driver seat, make no effort to get down* Err no it is ok. I will go.
Me :- Ok sir. *drives off*
Incident 3. Location: College
Same HoD again (who by the way comes in college bus) : Are you going to University?
Me : Yes sir
HoD :- Ok. I will take you to the University in your vehicle.
Me :- *thinking frantically to save myself from accident and embarrassment* Sir, so and so sir is also going. He will take you.
HoD :- Ok. Good.
Incident 4. Location : University
Another Male Colleague :- Madam will you be going back to college?
Me : Yes after 2 hours. why?
Male Colleague :- I will be going with you.
Me :- Ok. But I will drive.
Male Colleague :- No I will. You don’t worry. I will take you back safely.
Me :- *slips out then only to go back to college*
Every time any male colleague asks for a lift from me on my scooty (as a last resort otherwise they ask male colleagues first), he expects me to ride pillion while he drives. I guess the reason is that he feels uncomfortable sitting behind a female driver. I suppose this feeling arises from the deep seated desire of control, to be the leader, to be dominant and basically the infamous male ego.
The problem is that I too have the need to control inside me when it comes to my stuff, in this case my vehicle. There are only few people whom I trust enough to relinquish my control and let them drive while I sit behind them. Moreover I don’t see what is the big deal in being the pillion passenger when you are the one asking for the lift? If you sit behind me I promise
# I won’t apply sudden brakes to make you bump into my back.
# I won’t talk on mobile while driving.
# Inspite of all the specimens we have on our roads, I will drop you off safe and sound.
Asking for a lift and then saying you will drive while I sit behind is unacceptable. And if you feel discomfort being the pillion passenger while a girl drives, then please go and ask someone else. My vehicle, I drive – Thats it.
Tell me my male readers – If you hitch a lift from a girl on a two wheeler and you have no other option, are you willing to be the pillion passenger?
Tell me my female readers – If your male colleague asks for a lift on your two wheeler, would you prefer to drive or ride pillion?