A conversation between colleagues that I witnessed :-
Senior Colleague (Male) say B :- Ahh! No. My wife doesn’t let me teach our daughter because she thinks I am not strict enough. See, my ideology is when she wants to study she will. But my wife is always making her study like when she wants to go out to play, when she is watching tv…
Senior Colleague (Female) say C :- Sir, which child “wants” to study? We have to make them study.
B :- Hmmm..Few days back my wife asked her to write few words in small, capital and cursive. She mixed up and my wife slapped her. But I feel it is unfair to expect a child of 5 yrs to write all that correctly.
C :- Sir, in today’s world of competition, we have to prepare them to fight. Otherwise they will end up as losers and will blame us only that why didn’t we make them study.
Another incident at a bookstore that I witnessed :-
A lady placed a very thin book on the counter and proceeded to pay for it. The book was – Unsolved C.B.S.E. Question Papers for Class 1.
The city I live in, is the education hub of my state. In its small area, coaching classes, schools and engineering colleges have cropped up like mushrooms. The attitude of parents is highly competitive and they aspire their child to become either a doctor or an engineer.There is too much hype of tuitions, question papers, crash courses and so on. This preliminary backdrop is required to understand my reactions.
# Previous years question papers for Class 1? Class 1? Are you kidding me? I know Education has got tougher and more competitive but this? Obviously that book is there because there is a demand for it. Why should a child of class 1 be made to feel that it is essential for him to solve question papers and that he would be under prepared otherwise? I have seen many parents run around to get notes, question papers etc which I think builds up more tension in the student’s mind and he feels less confident if he has left out even a single old paper unsolved. The practice is good for higher classes but totally unnecessary for small kids. Her fear for her child is justified and maybe she just wanted to just see the pattern of question paper. I just hope that is the reason and that she is not pressurizing her child into believing that Class 1 exam is like going to war and he has to be armed to the teeth!!
# I think the acceptance of the occasional slap/beating parents give to their “disobedient” children in our society is wrong. Slapping or beating if a child did not write some words correctly is very very wrong. Kids do silly mistakes in maths or spelling mistakes in language but I am sure there are better ways to make them learn the correct things.
# See the stark difference in Indian and Western attitude towards studies
A quote goes –
पढ़ोगे लिखोगे बनोगे नवाब
खेलोगे कूदोगे होगे ख़राब
Studies will make your life, sports will mar it
A Bengali quote says –
পড়া শোনা করে যে
গাড়ি ঘড়া চড়ে শে
One who studies rides cars and horse i.e. becomes rich.
An English proverb says –
All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.
# Its true that few kids feel like studying on their own. But I feel a particular time duration must be set during which the kid has to complete homework and study. Before and after that he is free to pursue to games etc. In fact it must be encouraged because the games kids play nowadays are on computer!! I think many of them don’t know the games we used to play.
# Every parent’s fear is well founded but pressurizing the kid 24×7, making him think if he doesn’t “win” like come in rank, get into prestigious school/college/career then he is a loser; is entirely wrong.
# A child should be treated as a child and not as a warrior! Of course no gain without pain but still the pain should be tolerable!!
Let him responsibly enjoy the best time of his life before he becomes a rat in the rat race.