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Durga Pujo 2008 – Photo and Video Feature

This is the final post of the “Fun time of year” series. So Maa Durga’s visit to her parents is over and she has headed back to her home. My 3 days holidays are over and sadly I didn’t even start grading the answer sheets. But no regrets as I have a weekend ahead. 🙂 So here is my post as a summary of Durga Pujo 2008. First I would like to share a wonderful video I found on You tube with same title as my post.

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My Dual Life

Its been two months since I again became a student to do my second Master of Engineering in my core branch i.e. Electrical Engineering. The first day of M.E. (Power Systems Engineering) was a portent of what lay ahead. Getting up at an unholy time (6.45 am), bathing so early in morning, attending class from 8 to 11 and taking classes after that till evening are totally draining me out mentally and physically. For those who remember my earlier post on categories of students and those who were curious to know my classification, nowadays I can be classified as

# The First Bencher :- One of my Professors in M.E. writes on the board in such a small cursive handwriting that it is not resolvable or readable from the first bench even with a pair of binoculars. Though I admit I haven’t tried using a binoculars yet. Maybe I would one day. When I was the class monitor in school, then only I’d learnt that one has to write for the audience not for oneself on board. Another speaks in low voice and another’s subject is so boring that I have to sit there to avoid sleep. 😛

# The Yawner :- Just as the Professor turns his back to us, I yawn and stretch. 6.45 am is like dawn to me. 😦

# The Stimulator :- In all the 5 subjects, there are only two which really interest me and I’m active in that class. Whether I’m fun to teach or not , that only my professors can tell. 😀

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Indians or Moral Police?

Of all the weird, bad, happy and exciting things that happen in my life, the one I’m going to narrate beats all the uninvited weird events that have ever happened to me. But the point of my post is not the event. Its my contemplation on the attitude of Indian society which caused this incident. On Thursday night, I was coming back from a dinner party with colleagues and it was bit late (10.30 pm). Suddenly this guy (read:weirdo) came along on bike and started driving beside me. He said hello and I sped up totally ignoring him and his blabbering. He drove all the way to my home. By then I had started to lose my temper. I stopped my Scooty, turned to face him and our conversation followed:-

Weirdo : What were u doing back there, standing and talking with a guy in front of my house?

Me with incredulous look : What on earth are you talking about? Do you even know who I am and where I’m coming from?

Weirdo : You were standing with a guy in front of my house. Don’t stand in front of my house ever again. Its not a good thing.

Me with my temper lost completely and shouting : Are you mad? I’m coming from xxx and haven’t stopped anywhere to talk with anyone. I think you are mistaking me for someone else.

Weirdo : No its you. Its not a good thing to stand and talk like that. Is this your home?

Me shouting : Yes it is. So?

Weirdo : I’ll tell your dad what you were doing.

Me hopping mad and shouting : Yeah?? By all means do so. Just get off your bike and tell my dad.

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The Fear of Death

My maternal uncle had been suffering from cancer and passed away on 15th August. During the last days of his life, I observed one important aspect of human nature which made me analyze my opinion on it. The aspect was the innate, sometimes subconscious sometimes obvious fear of death. Having a terminally ill family member at home does cause an air of sadness and depression. But its interesting to see how others react to it. Another close relative; a well known surgeon, very rich & money minded person and my uncle’s neighbor, got affected by high blood pressure by all this. Apparently he was struck by the fear of death. After accumulating so much wealth all his life, he would have to let go of everything. That is a scary thought for all those who are deeply attached to their assets. The fear of death reminds me of a story I’d read in school books which illustrates that Fear is the real epidemic.

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Start Living!!

Life is so fickle. One moment you may be on the top of the world and in next moment you may literally be on the top of the world if you know what I mean. One moment you may be driving back home looking forward to a nice dinner and next moment you may be dead due to a bomb blast. And there can be more examples of how uncertain life is. In the next moment you may never see the people you care about ever again. You may never get to make that pending phone call again or finish those long due stuff on your “to-do” list. You may never get to say that “I’m sorry” or “I love you” ever again. One moment you are making money left and right and next moment you are dead before you could enjoy the fruits of your labor (legal or otherwise).

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The Expansionist Meme

Nova and Nita tagged me to do this meme. So here it is.

Please thoughtfully consider the following, and choose one item for each of the categories below. (Be sure to describe your reasons for choosing)

One religious work from a non-familiar tradition you’ll read:
The Bible…I’d always wanted to read it.
One music video–that you like–from your “least likely to listen to’ genre:
I never listen to ghazals and especially Jagjit Singh as he depresses me big time! But I like this song very much…”Koi Fariyaad” from the movie Tum Bin.
A book from a genre you almost never read, that you have read, or you will read (promise!):

I guess “Freakonomics” which I’m currently reading anyway. Otherwise I’m a fiction or thriller or mystery or comics reader.
Somewhere you’d never thought to go on holiday/vacation, and why it might be fun to go there?
Mauritius because I love the sea and sand (not the sun though)
A specific food you’ve never tried, but will because of this meme, honest!:
I have not tried any of McD burgers yet (only Pizza Hut/Dominoes pizzas) but I will..Promise!!
A sport or game you really hate, or haven’t tried yet, but are willing to give one more go:
I’ll like to try out Table Tennis as a dear friend is very interested in that and I wonder whats the hype about!

A style of dance you probably won’t try (we won’t make you promise on this one):

Any Indian classical dance..too much costume!
A career job you don’t feel you’re suited for, and why:
An industrial job – too much hardwork and no holidays!!! 😀 😀
An item that’s “thinking out of the box’ for this meme that hadn’t been included:
What is it that you will dare to wear which you have never worn before? (This question has been suggested by Nita to the people she tagged)
This nice red branded evening gown worn by the actress Anne Hathaway!!
It’s there’s one thing in life you wanted to do, and will do because of this meme, what will it be?
“Will do”? Is it a promise? Ummm…I’ll go scuba diving right after I learn how to swim.

I tag Sridevi, Adarsh, Beth, Joel and Vaibhav

P.S. I’m on a meme spree and there are many more drafts waiting to be published. So brace yourselves for reading and getting tagged!!

My First Tag

I’d been tagged to do this meme sometime back by Nova, but it required a lot of soul searching and mostly overcoming the hesitation of sharing it and now I’ve finally come around to posting it.

I am: 30% friendly, 20% sensitive, 20% curious, 20% wilful, and 10% cynical 😀 😀

I think: everything happens at its own time no matter how desperately we want it to be according to our convenience.

I know: its not possible to get everything……win some lose some.

I want: to be happy and content in life.

I have: my own set of ethics and rules.

I wish: the mind had shift+ delete option for pain and bad memories.

I hate: backbiting, ridicule and hypocrisy.

I miss: my sister and the fun times of my hostel life.

I fear: going through a heartbreak, lightning, ghosts.

I feel: a restlessness inside me.

I hear: people’s unsolicited advice and comments and filter them, keeping the ones which are heartfelt.

I smell: fishy going-ons very soon and I’m usually right about them.

I crave: for all the friends I’ve lost on the way.

I search: for the uncomplicated Me.

I wonder: what has the so called Destiny in store for me.

I regret: making some bad decisions and trusting wrong people in life.

I love: my family, laughing, shopping and eating good food!!

I ache: to meet some special people of my life again.

I care: for those who manage to touch my heart beneath the tough shell.

I always: try to do unto people what I would have them done unto me.

I am not: a very traditional kind of person.

I believe: we build our fate with the choices we make at every step of life.

I dance: rather used to dance at parties during college life.

I sing: in the shower, while driving, sometimes “out of lyrics”!

I cry: when I remember some past hurts and events.

I don’t always: get around to complete my “to-do” list!

I fight: very badly when I lose my temper.

I write: my blog and long letters.

I win: whenever I follow my gut feeling.

I lose: whenever I ignore God’s signs.

I never: forget though I may forgive.

I confuse: people when I don’t want to give a straight answer.

I listen: to my heart and follow what it says most of the times.

I can usually be found: teaching engineers-to-be or surfing internet.

I am scared: of losing my loved ones.

I need: to avoid self-inflicted complications in my life.

I am happy about: the fact that life’s been pretty good to me till now.

No compulsion to do it..still I tag Sakhi, Shoaib, Suda, RJ, and Swathi

P.S. Shoaib aaj tum khush to bahut hoge!! …my blog cant get more personal than this meme!
*Shivering and clicking the Publish button*

Is it better to have loved and lost or not to have loved at all? – Part 2

Its so easy to write books like “chicken soup”, million books on break up and how to deal with it, etc etc…..and so much more difficult to actually go through it and come out alive. I appreciate Vinita’s efforts to give a balanced write-up.
In my opinion based on my personal experiences…..There is no pain more excruciating than the pain of a broken heart… especially the heart which has been broken by betrayal. After my personal experiences, I sometimes wonder why I have not become immune to this pain and why does it hurt still? Why do I still cry? Why haven’t I given up on “love” and the quest for it? For the lack of a “delete history” or “reload” option; I would say I would have been much more happier if I had never fallen in love. Unlike the bundle of insecurity, cynicism bordering on indifference, bitterness and suspiciousness ; which I am now. It would have been an alternative fate with alternative people in it and alternative events of happiness and sadness. I would have saved many nights spent in crying in misery and almost going insane. There is nothing in this world that causes so much pain and if I could choose between love and death, I think I would rather die. As the poet of the famous love poem “Frozen Tear” puts it

Even though I said that final good-bye
Even though it was all up to me
I still cry
I still cry for when we were the best of friends
For the nights we spent together
And for what was never suppose to be
I cry not for u or me but because of what was never there
I cry for what was in my mind and how it will never be again
To stop crying is something I somewhat learned from u
Too many kisses led to the tragedy
Too many hugs that felt for nothing
Too many tears frozen just because of that one simple good-bye
Too many emotions defrosted because I stood up for myself and lost someone special
But that’s in the past and that’s where it needs to stay
Forever I will remember the frozen tear that meant so much to me and nothing to u
One more frozen tear cried and I will forever say my final good-bye

To my friends, Reason, Season or Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.

When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being a part of my life.

Is it better to have loved ‘n’ lost or not to have loved at all? – Part 1

Sharing an article I came across in Times Life dated 03/03/2008….
O-zone Vinita Dawra Nangia

Is it better to have loved ‘n’ lost? or Would you rather never have tasted love, and so none of its attendant rollercoaster ride of emotions ranging from exultation to grief?

TIMES NEWS NETWORK

RECENTLY two of my women friends chose to separate from their respective spouses after being married for more than a decade. Incidentally, both had married for love.
Will that love now be the cause of regret rest of their lives? Or, will they be able to rise above the heartbreak and emerge from the experience richer and more evolved human beings? Even though it is still too early to tell, you can already see the difference in their attitudes. One has confidently set out on a path rebuilding life and
imbibing lessons she has learnt from the breakup; the other is low as low can get,
sounding stricken and clearly having taken a bad hit. Surely for her, it would have been better not to have loved at all?
A question that plagues all who have visited heartbreak zone — is it better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all? Lord Tennyson raised the issue in In Memoriam, written in a state of almost suicidal grief after the sudden death of his friend, Arthur Hallam.
Since then, not just poets and essayists, but every lover has asked himself and the world in general this question. Would you rather never have tasted love, and so none of its attendant rollercoaster ride of emotions ranging from exultation to grief ? Or, do you feel richer for all the experi
ence loving and being loved brought to you?
Difficult question to answer, especially given the fact that all of us walk into love with our eyes closed, believing like every full blooded human being does, that only the good stuff happens to us, while bad things happen to others. And yet, nobody can be in love and not be swung to absolute extremes of emotion. You are riding an unbelievable high one moment and plunging into abysmal depression the next. You believe yourself to be the luckiest person alive while in love and then, when that love ends, there could be nobody more torn apart than you…
They say love and intimacy is the cause of all our happiness and sorrow; our well-being and sickness, and of all our pain and healing. To give up one is to give up the other. If you deny yourself love for fear of the pain, you would undoubtedly be depriving yourself of all the ecstasies too. Surely the high that love alone can swing you to is worth the risk of pain?
And then, there is a beauty to even
the pain that love brings. Its beauty lies in the depth of emotion we experience and to the way we respond to it. Some of our most beautiful poetry, songs and art have been the result of emotional turmoil resulting from rejection in love. In fact many creative artists work on perfecting the art of wallowing in melancholy. The world’s greatest love stories have ended in pain and separation. Does that stop us from idolising Romeo & Juliet, Tristan & Isolde, Heer Ranjha or Paro Devdas?
There are those who say that love never ends. Two
individuals may choose to end a relationship, yet if they truly loved each other, the love lasts beyond their togetherness. It is an emotion that you can revisit and wrap around yourself as a comfort in times of loneliness and despair. Love imbues two individuals with a sense of wellbeing, happiness and confidence that rest of the world cannot penetrate. And when they separate, why must they also give up all the positive strokes love brought them?
Whether or not you are able to smile at shared happy moments later and retain the positive feelings really depends on the way two individuals choose to end their relationship.

Dr Brian Weiss in Only Love is Real, the book Princess Diana read just before she took off on her last holiday with Dodi, explains that love is a powerful, reuniting energy. If
you believe in love as the be-all and end-all of our existence; as both the beginning as well as conclusion of the journey of life, you would agree that we need to go through any number of relationships in life because we learn our life’s lessons through them — “forgiveness, understanding, patience, awareness, non-violence…We have to unlearn other traits, such as f e a r … a n ge r … . g r e e d … h at r e d … pride… ego which result from old conditioning.’
If that’s so, then the very purpose of the beginning and ending of a relationship must be to enable us to learn valuable lessons. And, if we don’t understand that, we would be doomed to a series of loves that keep ending in grief!
Love sharpens our senses and mental faculties. It increases our capacity for giving as well as receiving emotion. Love brings with it enlightenment and a lightness of being. And when love creeps away, it leaves us with a depth of emotion that is just as meaningful and necessary to our existence, to the very fabric of our lives…
I hold it true, whate’er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
‘Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.
— Lord Tennyson